Over the past couple of years, I have been in the process of finding a program through which I could “Give Back” with my new skills and talents of helping others through their own treatments. In March of 2017, I found an official mentoring program for my then amateur efforts to help others going through chemo and other cancer related angst. It was late that month that my nurse navigator, Julia, at Frankfort Regional Medical Center put me in contact with Friends For Life Cancer Support Network. Life kept happening, over and over again, slowing the process. That was the year of fingernail infections and C.diff, death of my grandfather, time really well spent with my grandmother, and sending my youngest off to Kindergarten. It took me 7 months to complete a detailed but easy application. Finally in mid-November I submitted my application, received a request for an in-person or over the phone interview, and then completed the in-person interview with Judy and Nicole (both amazing women). I viewed the online training videos, then completed the in-person Volunteer Training in March of 2018. In 2016, I was referred to Friends for Life.
I completed the application process in November of 2017, once I was more stable and felt I could take on a heavier more professional mentoring role. I was interviewed and screened, then invited to become a Peer Navigator/Peer Mentor. I completed training in Louisville with the March 2018 class.
I have also been able to be a reference for a couple of friends who felt they could help as well:
Your friend recently participated in online training to become a Friend for Life Cancer Support Network Peer Navigator. In that role, your friend will serve as an empathic, compassionate sounding board, encouraging others currently facing a cancer diagnosis similar to what your friend experienced.
The ideal Peer Navigator is someone who is self-motivated and responsible, an attentive listener who is considerate and respectful of others. We require prospective volunteers to complete a professionally directed training program before undertaking their role. Peer Navigators function largely on their own, with minimal direct supervision.
With these points in mind, would you please complete and return the enclosed “Personal Character Reference” at your earliest convenience? Your response is an essential part of our consideration.
Fast forward a couple of years….sorry, I haven’t been visiting my blog much in the last year. Things with family became the priority, they always are, but now I am healed and physically healthy enough to get back to “normal”. The chaos of a mother of 5 has resumed.
I am now serving as a trained Friend For Life Cancer Support Network, Peer Navigator and Mentor. I have been assigned to several women over the past couple of years. Most of them within the last year and a half since my own DIEP flap reconstruction. It seems I am the authority within the Network on this as well as coping through reconstruction, failed reconstruction, and then moving forward after that. This reminds me of those statements some of us tell ourselves, “Never in my life did I think I would ever be THE go to person for…”. It has been extremely fulfilling to be able to Make CANCER help me GIVE to others. Even better, it has been emotionally and spiritually healing to be able to serve others in these ways. Using my God-given talents and my 2 years of college education, combined with the wonderful training provided by my FFL leaders, to guide and counsel with others coming up to this trial next.
I have also found joy in doing data entry in office for the FFL staff on occasion. I look forward to each of our training sessions and every opportunity I get to spread the word about FFL to those in my geographical area.
I have been privileged to speak to University of Kentucky 1st year medical students, present information at a table during the pre-party at Party in Pink at Paristown, set out brochures/flyers at several of my own physicians offices, and this coming week I will be representing FFL and LBBC at my own local library for an event I have planned there. Next week, I will be involved in an annual session with University of Louisville medical students. FFL Volunteers share the realities of coping with cancer diagnosis and treatment – physical, emotional and practical issues – with students and faculty mentors. The intent is to encourage empathy, explore effective patient-physician communication and ultimately, overall quality of care. Then in March, comes the yearly live training session for new and current FFL volunteers.
So, yeah, I am helping where and when and how I can! And loving every minute of it. If you have been a cancer patient or caregiver to a cancer patient and you feel like you could handle being a listening ear and support for another walking in those same shoes, please give me a shout or follow the link above to FFL’s website and sign up. We are always looking for more volunteers, the more we have the more closely matched each support seeker can be. All types/stages of Cancer, all localities, one-to-one mentoring by phone, text, email, or messenger. If you are in those shoes right now and want a peer navigator and mentor, same, reach out to me or the FFL staff through the link above.